“The only time people dislike gossip is when you gossip about them.” ~ Will Rogers
“A perverse man stirs up dissension, and a gossip separates close friends” ~ Prov 16:28
At times, we may rub folk the wrong way with the things that we do or the words that we speak. It’s not done intentionally, not all the time at least. Nonetheless they can cause irreparable damage and long lasting pain. We tend to think that just because we are close to certain folk, that it gives us free range to all parts of their lives; that just because we reveal everything to them, that they are going to do the same in return. This is not always going to be the case. There are certain aspects of one’s being that should remain private, sacred even. There may be certain things that are going on that effect other people and to reveal such information could be detrimental to other parties involved.
It’s about respect. Sure, you may feel comfortable revealing yourself to the world when it comes to most matters, but not every aspect of your being should be put on display for the world to see. Once you reveal thoughts that were once private, it’s no longer private; it’s no longer sacred. It is subject to whatever the viewing public takes it to be. If you don’t want folk in your business, don’t put your business out there. I mean, it’s crazy how we operate as human beings. A lot of us fail to recognize what we are doing and what we are saying. Like we when begin discussing the business of others, gossiping, etc. How do you think that other person feels about their business being put out there in the streets?
Now, I’m no saint. I’ve done my share of gossiping in life, but as I got older I began to realize that some things are better left unsaid. That it’s better to keep the tongue parked and the lips sealed than to let them flail about. This is how friends become enemies and how enemies gain strength. What’s even worse than speaking out of place or spreading information about people is when people begin to believe what they are hearing. Some people think that just because they heard it from more than one person that it’s got to be true. Gossip or a rumor is only as good as the source that it comes from. Just because you know a few things about people, doesn’t mean that you have to share that with others to make a conversation.
So be careful when you part your lips; use caution when opening your mouth. Try to understand the context in which things were spoken. It’s not always as bad as you think. It’s not always about you. Even if it is, just shrug your shoulders and keep it moving.
If it doesn’t kill you or it doesn’t stop you from living, then what harm has it really done? I take that back…. As I mentioned before, it can cause some irreparable damage. Lack of understanding and lack of respect for others will undoubtedly lead to a decrease in trust and faith in people and things. But hey, it’s been going on since the beginning of time and won’t stop until someone up there turns the lights out on this little planet. All we can do is live our lives the best way we can. As I said sometime before, no matter what you do in this life, someone is going to take exception to it. Can’t please everybody. You will surely die young and with a heavy heart attempting to do so.
I’ll still luv ya tomorrow……